To The One that Got Away

In your life, you'll make note of a lot of people. Ones with whom you shared something special, ones who will always mean something. There's the one you first kissed, the one you first loved, the one you lost your virginity to, the one you put on a pedestal, the one you're with...and the one that got away

Who is the one that got away? I guess it's that person with who everything was great, everything was perfect, but the timing was just wrong. There was no fault in the person, there was no flaw in the chemistry, but the cards just didn't fall the right way, I suppose.

I believe in the fact that ending up with someone, finding a longtime partner that is, does not lie merely in the other person. I can actually argue that an equal part, or maybe even the greater part, has to do with the matter of timing. It has to do with you being ready to settle down and commit to someone in a way that goes beyond the little nice ties of giddy romance.

How often have you gone through it without even realizing it? When you're not ready to commit in that mature manner, it doesn't matter who you're with, it just doesn't work. Small problems become big; inconsequential become deal breakers simply because you're not ready and it shows. It's not that you and the person you're with are no good ; it's just that it's not yet right, and little things become the flashpoint of that fact.

Then one day you're ready. You really are. And when this happens you'll be ready to settle down with someone.He or she may not be the most perfect, they might not be the brightest star of romance to ever have burned in your life , but it'll work because you're ready. It'll work because it's the right time and you'll make it work. And it'll make sense, it really will.

So that day comes when you're finally making sense of things, and you find yourself to be a different person.Things are different, your approach is different, you finally understand who you are and what you want, and
you've become ready because the time has truly arrived. And mind you, there's no telling when this day will come. Hopefully you're single but you could be in a long-term relationship, you could be married with three kids, it doesn't matter. All you know is that you've changed, and for some reason, the one that got away, is the first person you think about.

You'll think about them because you'll wonder, "What if they were here today?" You'll wonder, "What if we were together now, with me as I am and not as I was?" That's what the one that got away is.The biggest "What if?" you'll have in your life.

If you're married, you'll just have to accept the fact that the one that got away, got away. Believe me, no matter how fairy tale you think your marriage is, this can happen to the best of us. But hopefully you're mature enough realize that you're already with the one you're with and this is just another test of your commitment, one which will just strengthen your marriage when you get past it. Sure, you'll think about him/her every so often, but it's alright. It's never nice to live with a "might have been," but it happens.

Maybe the one that got away is the one who's already married. In which case it's the same thing.You just have to accept and know that your memories of that person will probably bring a nice little smile to your lips in the future when you're old and gray and reminiscing. But if neither of that is the case, then it's different. What do you do if it's not yet too late? Simple...find him, find her. Because the very existence of a "one that got away"means that you'll always wonder, what if you got that one?

Don't Grow Old

Many people are afraid of growing old. I'm afraid of growing old and boring. Many people are afraid of growing old, alone. I'm afraid of growing old, insane. Many people are afraid of losing their looks. I'm afraid of losing my dreams. Many people are afraid of losing their youth. I'm afraid of losing my soul.

When you're 15, 35 seems ancient. When you're 35, 15 seems juvenile. A turnaround in a split second - two decades zoom past and before you know it, it's only a mile to the next millennium. Don't' fear age- it's a right of person hood. Don't fear death- it's God's greatest jest. Don't grow old - you don't have to.

Don't date because you're desperate. Don't marry because you're miserable. Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior. Don't separate because you think it's fashionable. Don't drink because you have troubles. Don't gamble because you think winning is inevitable. Don't philander because you think you're irresistible. Most likely, you're not.

Don't associate with people you can't trust. Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend. Don't try to buy your way into the kingdom of God. Don't dictate because you're smarter. Don't demand because you're stronger. Don't sleep around because you think you're old enough and know better. Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder. Don't sell your self, your family or your ideals.

Don't stagnate. Don't regress. Learn a new skill. Find a new friend. Start a new career. Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back. (ohmygod) Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. (Ms.) Right. Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr. (Ms.) Wrong because your biological clock is ticking and you can't afford to have your eggs harvested before the new millennium.

There's always a mad rush to something, somewhere but victory does not always belong to those who finish first. Sometimes, there is no race to be won, only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions. You can't always go with the throng who could be wrong. Sometimes, you have to be alone to be enlightened.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless. To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy. To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy. Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons. To keep yourself warm, buy a jacket. In the long-run, it will be less complicated and less costly. To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of what you can be.

Simplify your life. Take away the clutter. Get rid of destructive elements - abusive friends, nasty habits and dangerous liaisons. Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty. Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family. Be true to yourself. Don't commit when you're not ready. Don't keep others waiting needlessly. Fall in love - it's the greatest thing on earth. But take care and remember, after the fall must come the rise.

Go on that trip. Don't postpone it. Say those words. Don't let the moment pass. Do what you must even at society's scorn. Write poetry. Love deeply. Walk barefoot. Hold hands. Dance with wild abandon. Cry at the movies. Take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone to take care of you. You light up your life. You drive yourself to your destination. No one completes you - except you.

It is true that life doesn't get easier with age. It only gets more challenging. Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love. Pursue your passions. Live your dreams. Don't lose faith in God.

Don't grow old. Just grow-up!

everything happens for a reason

Past mistakes. Funny how, when put together, those two words can conjure up feelings within people that they would rather die than re-experience. As human beings, we like to think that we've got things down, that we know how to deal. But do we really? Is it really ever possible to completely let go of your past?

To tell you the truth, I'm not so sure anymore. But the past isn't the word that I want to focus on. What I'm talking about is mistakes. We make them every day whether we realize it or not. And throughout our lives, each and everyone of us will have a handful of very profound, life-altering mistakes that we have to live with. It's just the way the world works, and it shows us how very fragile life can be. When it comes down to it, you really have to think about how easy it is.

People unintentionally create life and unintentionally destroy life all the time. But it's what happens in between that really matters. It's how you handle the situation, and the lessons you learn in spite of it. Regardless of how you feel about yourself, the sun is still going to rise every morning, and the world will still expect you to move with it. No matter how hard you try, you can't stay in one place forever.

Eventually, you have to realize that whatever happened -even though it may or may not have been based off of poor judgment- was still just a mistake. No matter how much you 'what-if' and 'that was so stupid of me', there's still nothing you could have done about it.. because everything happens for a reason.

Whether it be something grand like finding the love of your life or winning the lottery, or whether it's something painful like losing a loved one or ruining a relationship, there's still a reason behind it.

I think the reason why people get so fed up with the "everything happens for a reason" saying is because most the time they can't see the reason for it happening. They're too concerned with worrying themselves over what they could have done differently to change the outcome that they completely overlook how the mistake affects the rest of the world. And I'm not saying that all reasons are pleasant ones, because obviously they're not.

But even if the reason isn't a good one, it's still a reason and it still serves some greater purpose that most of us will never comprehend.

I'm not saying that I'm an advocate of painful things happening just because they serve a greater purpose down the road, because personally I think that sucks. I wish that everything always had a good outcome, but hey, doesn't everyone?

I'm just starting to deal with the fact that no matter what, there's nothing that ANY OF US can do about what mistakes we may have made in the past, so we shouldn't let them continue to dictate the course of our lives. And most of all, we shouldn't judge each other because of them. I don't care what happened in your past.

I'm certain there were some horrible things that caused you massive amounts of pain, and that makes my heart ache to think about. But nothing that you did no matter what it was is going to have any barring on how I'm going to let myself feel about you.

I don't care about your past, I don't care about your mistakes, I care about you and the person you are this very moment. After all, if you really think about it, isn't life just a bunch of moments? That's the way I see things.

Therefore, anything that isn't happening right this second doesn't exist in my book. I'm not running from the past..

I'm just letting it be what it is; the past.

past, present, future

I have a story to tell.

Once upon a time, my Past and my Present caught up with me. Both of them wanted a chance to become my Future. I couldn't decide who to pick.

I contemplated about my Past and thought about the good times... The bad times... I thought about how much I miss my Past. All of the times that we spent together. How much there's still a big part of me that wishes he were back in my life to fill in the void that came about when he left.

But also there's my Present.

My Present is perfect. He is like the Prince that saved me from the bitterness of my Past. When all I can feel with my Past is sorrow, all I feel for my Present is happiness, laughter and security. I had once asked for someone to save me and I knew in my heart that he could. My saviour. My knight. My Prince.

But why does the idea of not giving my Past a second chance so revolting?

Days and nights I thought about what to do. I always thought about why I felt so alone. Why I felt so scared of the thought of being happy. I asked myself countless times, why I was even thinking about this. The Past who made you cry, or the Present who'd do almost anything to make me happy... I guess it was true that the only person who could make you stop hurting is the person who hurt you in the first place.

When I saw my Past face to face, it all came flooding back. Right then I was ready to give in again. My Past wanted to talk to me. And I wanted to talk to him too. There are so many questions that I know only he could answer.

"I'm with someone new now," my Past said.

I knew that...

"Then I guess there's really nothing we should talk about," he said again.

I guess not.

"Dammit!" he said. "Why are you so incapable of saying exactly how you feel? This is exactly what happened to us before. I tell you I was leaving and all you said was, take care on your way home. I never know what the hell you want from me! Do you want to be with me?.."

I kept quiet. He was right. I never ask for what I want because I always feel like I don't deserve to be so lucky. And I was scared... of him. Scared that he might not want what I wanted. Or allow me to get what I wanted... Him.

"What do you want?" he cried. "Tell me you want me, and you can have me."

What about your girl?

"Come-on, you know it's always been you..."

He was getting angry again. Then memories from before came back to me. That was the one, I was always so scared of him. I had told him that he was this voice in my head in everything I do, and that was exactly it. I always thought I needed his approval. I always thought I have to be better. I always thought I have to justify him being with me.

"What!?"

I started crying. I cried because I knew this was goodbye.

You really want to know the truth, my Past? I think it's time to move on. I think I shouldn't keep holding on to you. I think I can never love you the same way knowing it wasn't good enough that you had to leave. I think that there's better for me. Somewhere. There's someone waiting for me. Who I could be myself with. Who can accept me for who I am and didn't need me to ask for what I want, but should know what I want because he knows me. The truth is my Past, if you had to ask what I wanted, then you obviously are not ready to know.

I stepped out of the car, still crying and walked toward my house where my Present sat waiting.

"What happened to you?" he asked concern written all over his face. "I'm gonna have a little talk with him..."

No. You don't have to. Don't hate him. He didn't do anything to me.

"Didn't do anything? Will you look at yourself!" he held my hand. "I'm sorry, but you come to me broken, I get to hate the person who broke you. That's just how it is."

Please... I'm really not crying because of him.

I put my arms around his waste. And he cradled me, I can feel his lips on my ear.

I'm crying because I know exactly what I want now.

"Tell me..."

Just this. Plain and simple.

Can fairy tales come true?

Can fairy tales come true?

When I was a little girl I always imagined I was Sleeping Beauty. Hahaha. I think it's obvious that even then i was lazy. Hahahaha. Anyway, I loved the idea that someone handsome, a real gentleman, basically someone perfect, would come and give me something amazing...

A kiss.

And everything would be ok. He would take care of me, be there for me every single day and every single night. I would be his queen, and we would forever be in love.

But of course, like every dream, I had to wake up too. I realized that not everything we imagine can be magically turned into life. I realized that there are school buses, not golden chariots. Dirty mean boys who tease you while playing patintero.

And as you get older, there are guys who'll promise to call, but never does. Guys who say they'll do anything for you but can't even come over to help you fix your... Well, something... You realize that life isn't perfect. And you should consider yourself lucky if your life didn't suck for two weeks.

Little girls grow up too, right?

But then even if we know that dreams hardly ever come true, still we can't help ourselves. Libre lang naman mangarap diba? But is it possible that someone will come and sweep away the bitterness of the past?

Maybe, He did it.
Somehow, He literally made my dream come true.

mystery of a girl

When a GIRL is quiet,
Millions of things are running in her mind.

When a GIRL is not arguing,
She is thinking deeply.

When a GIRL looks at u with eyes full of questions,
She is wondering how long you will be around.

When a GIRL answers "i'm fine" after a few seconds,
She is not at all fine.

When a GIRL stares at you,
She is wondering why you are lying.

When a GIRL lays on your chest,
She is wishing for you to be hers forever.

When a GIRL calls you everyday,
She is seeking for your attention.

When a GIRL wants to see you everyday,
She wants to be pampered.

When a GIRL sms's u everyday,
She wants you to reply at least once.

When a GIRL says I love you,
She means it.

When a GIRL says that she can't live without you,
She has made up her mind that you are her future.

When a GIRL says "i miss you",
No one in this world can miss you more than that

difference of like and love

Know the difference between "somebody you Love" and "somebody you like"

In front of the person you LIKE, your heart beats faster.

But in front of the person you LOVE, you get happy.

In front of the person you LOVE, winter seems like spring.

But in front of the person you LIKE, winter is just beautiful winter.

If you look into the eyes of the one you LIKE, you blush.

But if you look into the eyes of the one you LOVE, you smile.

In front of the person you LIKE, you can't say everything on your mind.

But in front of the person you LOVE, you can.

In front of the person you LIKE, you tend to get shy.

But in front of the person you LOVE, you can show your own self.

You can't look straight into the eyes of the one you LIKE.

But you can always smile into the eyes of the one you LOVE.

But when the one you LIKE is crying, you end up comforting.

When the one you LOVE is crying, you cry with them.

The feeling of LIKE starts from the EAR.

But the feeling of LOVE starts from the EYE.

So if you stop liking a person you used to like, all you need to do is cover your ears.

But if you try to close your eyes, love turns into a drop of tear and remains in your heart forever ...

i was TAG..

This is the FIRST TAG at this blog.. well, i hope.. more to come.. hehehe..

THANKS to KATHYCOT for the TAG

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i belive in soulmates

My definition of a soul mate is someone that you can talk to and never have to explain what you mean. Someone who can tell what you are feeling simply by a word that you use in conversation, or by a mere tone in your voice, someone who will never judge you, someone who understands you completely. When you talk to that person, they bring you peace, and you are a better person because you know them.

I dont believe there is only one person in the world for someone. I believe that each person has a few people in the world who could potentially be the one. Its a matter of timing, whether their paths will cross at the right time.

Maybe there are even twenty different people in this world who you are destined to be with but because your paths dont cross at the right time, youll never find out. It's like that watch commercial where the guy is supposed to bump into the woman he was gonna marry and have kids with, but instead, he was a little late and never had a chance to meet her.

And its such a shame when you do meet that person and dont take the chance. For instance, if you are in a relationship (happy or unhappy, it doesnt matter, youre already involved with someone) and you meet someone else who youre attracted to and who is compatible with you in every way.

Would you take the chance and leave the relationship youre in? I cant say for all people, but most of my friends wouldnt leave the relationship they're in. Why? Because they've dedicated so much time and effort into the relationship to throw it all away for someone whom they've just met and for a relationship that they dont know the outcome of.

However, for someone to even consider leaving their boyfriend or girlfriend for someone new, I think the decision has already been made because if you were really happy in a relationship, you wouldnt even think of leaving him/her for someone else.

I do believe in SoulMates. I believe that there is someone that you can truly connect with on levels that other people just can't understand.

I guess what Im trying to say is don't stay in a relationship that you're not completely happy being in because there could be someone else out there who suits you better.

Unfortunately, I believe that you do not always end up being with your soul mate. But YES..I believe.

saying goodbye

he smiles now fade away, along with the great memories we once had together. My heart starts to drop into my stomach, as we both begin to move on, and my only wish is that I could just freeze time back to the good moments.

From the window I watch time slowly pass by, as my tears cloud the images of us no longer being together. Inside I'm screaming for him to think about what he's doing, but it only comes out as faint sobs.

I appear happy that another interest has found me, yet I secretly close my eyes and wish he was still there to hold me, or to just see his smile when I awoke on his lap.

As the days go on, I realize it was probably inevitable, and although regrets and "what if's" drown my mind everyday, reality takes hold of truth andthe fact that soon it will all be a memory.

It's just a matter of getting over the hardest part- saying goodbye.

things to remember everyday

"EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON."

"Never let the ODDS keep you from doing what you know in your heart you were meant to do."

"Wheresoever you go, go with all your heart."

"What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?"

"When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us"

If Tomorrow Starts without Me

I love sending e-cards to friends.While i was searching for a "HAVE A NICE DAY" e-card.. i came across this inspirational poem and it really made me cry while reading this..., The funny thing is, it's 3:50 am and I'm having some sentimental moments again when my mom knocks on my door asking why I'm crying..ha ha! I think she thought that i already need a psychiatrist. :)

I just want to share this with you, since i find it so touching and beautiful.





If tomorrow
starts without me, and I'm not here to see,
if the sun should rise to find your eyes are filled with tears for
me;
I hope you will not cry the way you might that day,
thinking of the many things we didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me and you know that I love you,
and each time that you'd think of me, please know I'd miss you
too;



If tomorrow starts without me, please try to understand,
that an angel came and called my name, and took me by the hand.
The angel said my place was ready, in heaven far above,
and that I'd have to leave behind all those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away, a tear fell from my eye
for all my life, I'd always thought, that I would never die.
I have so much to live for, so much left yet to do,
it seems almost impossible, that I'd be leaving you.



I thought of all the yesterdays, the good ones and the bad,
the thought of all the love we shared, and all the fun we had.
But then I walked through heaven's gates, and felt so much at
home.
When God looked down and smiled at me, from His great golden
throne,
He said, "This is eternity, and all I've promised you,
today your life on earth is past, but here life starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow, but today will always last,
and since each day's the same way there's no longing for the past.
You have been so faithful, so trusting and so true.
though there were times you did some things you knew you shouldn't
do.
But you have been forgiven and now at last you're free.
So won't you come and take my hand and live in peace with me?"



So if tomorrow starts without me, don't think we're far apart,
for every time you think of me, I'll be there in your heart.

Have A
Wonderful Day
Thought I'd Start Your Day With Me, God Bless You


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Speak english

I am not good in english, because its not my language, that’s why i never paid attention to english up till now. but now, i have realized that english language has become very much important in these days. whether you are studying or doing your job, its important, or even in daily routene life, it is now considered as your plus point that you are good in speaking english.

Speaking good English? Do you mean speaking English well? While not everyone can attain perfection in their speech (or in their writing), it is something everyone should aspire to. Like it or not, we are judged by how we speak. People will think we are well educated if we speak English well.

People who speak English as their second language can be forgiven a few quirks in their use of the language. After all, they have to learn a completely different language with different rules of grammar etc.. If they are coming to an English speaking country to live, they should make every attempt to become proficient in English for their own sake. Even though the United States has several languages on items, it is still easier to live in the country if you speak the language.
For those who speak English as their primary language. It is imperative that you learn it well and be able to speak it well. Maybe it is not important at home around family, but when you seek a job, or wish to present yourself to the public, it is better to present as someone who is learned and intelligent.

Knowing how to speak well doesn’t really require an extensive knowledge of grammar, just a rudimentary one. For those of you who write, that’s different. Writers should have extensive knowledge of English and grammar and usage, at least in their writing.

DISCLAIMER: When doing a post about correct spelling or grammar, there’s always the danger of misspelling a word or using a word incorrectly within the very article that you’re writing. If you should find such an error within this post, write it down on a piece of paper, put that piece of paper in an envelope, then go the post office and throw it into one of their trash cans.


***Hay buhay! dumugo ilong ko sa sinulat ko ha?? Kasalanan ito lahat ni Kuya Mel.. bakit ba nag suggest na mag Blog ako ng Ingles para sa Hindi Pinoy..